National Organising Week between 7-13th November 2016 is designed to celebrate the positive impact of decluttering & organising your home.
APDO Association of Professional Declutterers & Organisers is running National Organising Week asking: why delay letting go of those possessions which are cluttering your home and impacting on your precious living space? Declutter N.O.W. Read more
Every home I visit has an issue somewhere with stuff and space.“If I could clear this cupboard…” “I want to be able to read in this room by the window…” “This used to be a bedroom…” “I should have moved years ago…” Voices trail off into wishful thinking. All of them are saying, “If I didn’t have all these things, I could be doing something positive/better/useful.” In other words, they would be happier. Which is sad, because inanimate objects don’t care that they are restricting your living space, preventing you from having people over or getting things fixed.
Stuff doesn’t notice that the cupboards are stuffed full and the loft is full of empty obsolete boxes.
Kids off to uni soon? Take a step back: What are they leaving behind?
Are you about to store it nicely for them? How many times?
What if, and stand well balanced here… what if your kids don’t want what you are holding onto?
What if there is no appreciation for all the sorting and storing you are doing for them.
What if they never come back for it?
What if niggling annoyance breeds on your part and resentment and guilt on theirs? Relationship tensions for what?
Out of sight is never really out of mind. You can still feel it. And it can weigh you down whether you are aware of it or not. My decluttered clients tell me
“this is the greatest weight off my shoulders”
“I cannot believe how much lighter everything feels”
“that was the fastest way to lose 100lbs in one day”…
Like starting an exercise program, we are very creative in talking ourselves out of it. Feelings of fear, shame, embarrassment and actual emotional pain are huge hurdles to overcome as a waste watcher. Read more
This excellent blog “Do I Need a Skip for That? How To Get Rid of Your Unwanted Bulky Items” was posted on Houzz by Amanda Pollard. On the surface is shows how there is always some way to recycle your belongings- even the broken stuff that ‘nobody could possibly want’. It lists the Furniture Donation Network and Bulky Waste as excellent ways to get rid of stuff ethically.
Then if you click to the sites you see a deeper message – these go-to companies are actually ‘Community Dotcom‘ charity portals developed by social entrepreneur Steve Jackson OBE, founder of Recycling Lives – a Queen’s Award-winning commercial recycler and social welfare charity. Read more
I am obsessed with helping clients create memories when they are going through a major downsizing process. Often we take photos of items that are being gifted or donated to charities. We scan old negatives and photos to share among family members, or to use in a digital photo frame in the new residence. Some keepsakes trigger such evocative, happy memories that these are ‘no-brainers’ to keep and display. So often the saddest of all farewells is usually in the garden. Sigh, how do you let go of living plants? I decided: not without a fight! If you think you can’t take it with you, then here’s a great solution…
If you’re living with an overwhelming number of sentimental treasures that are cluttering up your home and nagging at your relationships, it is time to get it sorted. However, this can be very difficult to focus on. If you’re finding it hard to decide what to keep and what to let go of, here’s my advice: have the conversation.
Enough’s enough. All the signs are telling you that you NEED to declutter and you’d love to make a start. The problem is, it’s not all ‘clutter’. Yours is a mixture of things that you don’t need and things that you do. In amongst it are a great many treasures and the only person who knows which of them are truly important to you is YOU.
People often fear that ‘decluttering’ will mean getting rid of stuff that they love. They know they have permission to hold on to obvious heirlooms like family jewellery, however mostly it’s the other things – the belongings with no obvious financial value but huge sentimental importance – that they feel under pressure to let go.
Some times as a Belongings Coach, just a couple of emails suffice to put my clients on the right track.
Here is a recent email thread, reprinted with kind permission under a different name. Read more
So, I’m a Professional Declutterer, but it’s not what I do on the job. Regardless of text-book definitions, clutter is a word that can reduce peoples’ belonging to junk. Most of my clients say I am transforming their lives, one possession at a time. I insist that all I am here to do is help them make decisions about their belongings. If this #belongingscoach gives clients a decluttering afterglow them I am all the happier for it.
Overall my clients come to me for help during significant life change: downsizing from the family home, surviving divorce, illness or bereavement, empty nesting or introducing themselves to blended family realities. In all situations, there is many years’ accumulation of belongings. And that suddenly becomes stuff, or ‘clutter’, that needs sorting out. See above!