Home-blocking is a term used to describe the aging population’s seeming determination to stay in the family home rather than downsizing to release urgently needed homes back to the local community.
The UK elderly are at odds with their counterparts in the USA and Australia: just 1% of people over 60 in the UK live in retirement homes, compared with 17% in the States and 13% in Australia. So, what isn’t happening in the UK? Read more
Helping your parents’once-in-a-lifetime downsizing move from their large family home into more suitable accommodation can be daunting. Successful baby boomers living abroad or out of town are struggling to deal with ageing parents while juggling career and young family needs. Laments a recent anxious son from Sydney, “I just can’t be there to sort this out and they are moving in 6 weeks time!”
Once you’ve made a plan for your parents’ downsizing needs, Plan B might be the better option… Read more
When people are going through a divorce I’m often brought in to help deal with their belongings. There are various scenarios. Sometimes the husband leaves to start a new relationship, taking the bare minimum of possessions. His wife is left feeling overwhelmed and resentful about having to deal with every single thing. So she calls me. On other occasions family lawyers and divorce coaches refer cases to me because their clients are arguing over Every. Single. Thing. As well as the negative moods and toxic atmosphere, couples fighting over joint possessions can lead to higher legal fees and longer settlement periods. Read more
Cards on the table, I’m a Professional Declutter and so my Christmas wish is that people give each other the gift of an experience rather than another expletive thing. However, I just got trumped…
Yesterday, distracted and driving, I accepted a (hands-free!) call from a colleague while I busied myself with Christmas preparations. She just called to ask How Are You. She isn’t sending cards this year. She is calling people. And asking them about how their year was. Not hers. Mine.
How refreshing is this? No postal insincerity. No carefully crafted funny insert letter about fabulous 2017-lives-by-month with undirected signatures. Just her at the end of the line asking ‘How Are You? How Was Your Year?”
What followed was my download about the incredible year that I had failed to notice. Distractions drifted away, I pulled over and picked up the handset… Let’s face it: no one ever usually asks that sort of question with the intention to listen. Patricia did and she listened. She gave me the gift of her listening time. Read more
It’s a familiar scenario. Christmas arrives and you find yourself rummaging under surplus suitcases to uncover dust-covered tinsel, tangled strings of old tree lights and decorations spilling from broken shopping bags. Many admit defeat and end up buying new ones, leaving the old ones to languish under children’s beds and in the upper reaches of the kitchen cupboard. But it doesn’t have to be this way…
I am very clear to my clients about what I do: I help people make decisions about their belongings.
But time and again I get the sideways glance, the hands-on-hips admonishments and the belly ache laughter which all come out with “it’s clear that you’re not just a declutterer!” So perhaps it’s time to share some of the joy and insights about what I really do, according to my clients. Read more
National Organising Week between 7-13th November 2016 is designed to celebrate the positive impact of decluttering & organising your home.
APDO Association of Professional Declutterers & Organisers is running National Organising Week asking: why delay letting go of those possessions which are cluttering your home and impacting on your precious living space? Declutter N.O.W. Read more
Every home I visit has an issue somewhere with stuff and space.“If I could clear this cupboard…” “I want to be able to read in this room by the window…” “This used to be a bedroom…” “I should have moved years ago…” Voices trail off into wishful thinking. All of them are saying, “If I didn’t have all these things, I could be doing something positive/better/useful.” In other words, they would be happier. Which is sad, because inanimate objects don’t care that they are restricting your living space, preventing you from having people over or getting things fixed.
Stuff doesn’t notice that the cupboards are stuffed full and the loft is full of empty obsolete boxes.
Kids off to uni soon? Take a step back: What are they leaving behind?
Are you about to store it nicely for them? How many times?
What if, and stand well balanced here… what if your kids don’t want what you are holding onto?
What if there is no appreciation for all the sorting and storing you are doing for them.
What if they never come back for it?
What if niggling annoyance breeds on your part and resentment and guilt on theirs? Relationship tensions for what?
Out of sight is never really out of mind. You can still feel it. And it can weigh you down whether you are aware of it or not. My decluttered clients tell me
“this is the greatest weight off my shoulders”
“I cannot believe how much lighter everything feels”
“that was the fastest way to lose 100lbs in one day”…
Like starting an exercise program, we are very creative in talking ourselves out of it. Feelings of fear, shame, embarrassment and actual emotional pain are huge hurdles to overcome as a waste watcher. Read more